Why can't I be happy? How can I be happy when there is so much suffering, pain, evil and destruction in the world? What is happiness? Where does happiness come from?

This lesson uses guided imagery and concepts based on Pre-Cognitive Re-Education Workshops such as the Emotional Release Process for emotional healing and spiritual healing & growth. You can change your reality by releasing blockages, negative self talk and subconscious self-sabataging "tapes" holding emotions of hurt, self hatred, low self worth, shame, anger, anxiety and other negative emotional feelings like feeling unlovable or unwanted. If you like A Course In Miracles you'll love this inspirational approach.

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Happiness: A Mini-Workshop By Dr. Rick Moss, Ph.D. Presented to the congregation at Pacific Coast Church on April 21, 2002 Preamble by David Hayward And now it's my great pleasure to introduce the wonderful Dr. Rick Moss. I think you all know Dr. Rick Moss, he's been with us about 10 years now, he is here most Sundays, his work is Pre-Cognitive Re-Education. Dr. Bill Little refers to him as a psychic surgeon, he is so accurate with his patterns in the subconscious. It is just awesome. Please check out his website... Please open your hearts and welcome the very wonderful Dr. Rick Moss. Spiritual Integration by Dr. Rick Moss. My talk today is on happiness. And as I sat at my desk a couple of weeks ago wondering what I should say about it, the idea came to my mind to check out this little hand held computer of Biblical references that Bill gave me. Great place to start. So I type in the word 'happiness' and I hit 'enter' and it goes chu chu chu chunk. And it gives me an answer: And it says: "there is no happiness in the Bible." And I went, "Well that's profound isn't it?" Because that's exactly what I came here to tell you. (Not specifically about the Bible). “There is no happiness outside of the Self." But there is no happiness outside of the Self is really what that nature of this talk is about. What we are going to experience and explore in this mini-workshop is: what is the nature of real happiness and why doesn't it stay in our mind. That's really the program for today.. "And what we're going to say is that the nature of real happiness, of profound experience, is an experience of connection to the inner Self, to the divine Nature. " Living Based on God Connection (Vertical connection). I've had a chance to share my favorite spiritual joke with you a couple of times so I ask your indulgence if I share it with you again. I sort of feel a bit like Bill about to talk about the prodigal son. And in this spiritual joke: "A man is in a bar and he's crying. And so the bartender comes up and says, hmm, what's wrong? And the man says: "I have a three million dollar house!" and he starts crying and crying. And the bartender goes: "yeah"? And the guy says: "I drive a Ferrari and a Lexus!" and he's just crying like crazy. And the bartender is like "yeah?" Then the guy goes: "I have the most beautiful perfect home that you could ever imagine with two great kids and a wonderful wife." And then he goes into hysterics. And the bartender says "So why are you so unhappy?" And the man says "Because I can't remember where I live"! What makes that my favorite spiritual joke is that that's the joke for all of us, we can't remember where we live. Because where we live is in this (vertical) connection. And we think we live out here (horizontal connection). And that's why we're all unhappy. We're trying to live out here instead of live here (in the heart). How The Mind Functions: Another way of putting this is to say that the mind is not just one unit. The mind has two separate and distinct parts to it. There is what we are going to call the egoic part where our fear, our judgement, our history, our shame, our hurts, all of that reside. And that's where we identify ourselves mostly if we don't learn how to get out of that part of the mind. We think we're a body. We think we have a personal history. etc. We think...etc, etc. We have a job, etc etc. Now this part of the mind has it's own experience of happiness (small "h" happiness). It gets happy if it gets stuff; if it gets a raise, if it gets money, if it gets a relationship, if it gets accolaides, if it's website wins awards. Now the thing about this kind of happiness is that there's nothing wrong with it; it is sort of like ice-cream. It's really fun but you can't make a meal, well you can't make a lot of meals out of it. This kind of happiness is short lived. We could really call this kind of happiness "happeningness" because it's all externally based. It's all about what happens to us. “We could really call this kind of happiness "happeningness" because it's all externally based.” Now there is a completely different kind of experience; of Happiness, and this is Happiness with a capital H. (and this is where I put you to work). So I'm going to ask you if you would to close your eyes. And I'm going to ask you throughout this mini-workshop to share words with me at a certain time; to share experiences. Because some of us will have a clairity of experience faster than others, and it will be useful for those who have an experience to share it to show the way to that experience to those who don't have it quite yet. So closing your eyes take a deep breath and just sigh and let go. “The most common belief is "I am bad" or "I am unworthy of love." Releasing Blocks I'd like you to imagine that that egoic part of your mind with all of it's history and fears and judgements and identification with bodies.. I'd like you to imagine that that's like a husk. And inside that husk is a seed of light that is your being, your essence, your divine nature. And I'd like you to imagine that God reaches down and lifts your out of that husk for a moment. (You can always come back there you don't have to be afraid). Lifts you up in the most perfect supportive and generous hands of love. And you sit in those hands of love in the light that those hands bring. And I'd like you to imagine that you don't have to do anything for that light; that love, that light is given without the possibility of it being taken away. That that light, that love is forever. And just give yourself over to that feeling, that melting, that merging in that light. Now as you merge into that light if there's a feeling of well-being, goodness, happiness, could you just raise your hand so I can see? It looks like about 60%. Now those people who are having a clear experience of that feeling to share with us if you would what that feeling feels like because those of us who are not can empath it, we can take it in by hearing your voice. And that might give us a greater experience of it. So a couple of people if you wouldn't mind could you give me a couple words and I'll repeat them of what it feels like to be in that light. "warm" "peace" "weightless" "secure" "elated" "joy" "grateful" "holy" "spacious" This is the experience of Whole-mind. And every word that you've given us is a description of whole minded awareness. You don't have to do anything for it, it is simply a state of mind, a state of being. Yet somehow we find it hard to get here and sometimes we find it hard to live from here. "But it is remarkably close! Isn't it? A couple of seconds and you are there." correct? It must be a very essential and major part of our being if we can get there in a couple of minutes. And now just open your eyes. If you want - don't have to. It's a profound experience. I see people wiping their eyes. There are tears that come from the profunditiy of the whole mind experience. It is the basis of happiness. “The whole mind experience is the basis of happiness." Did you notice when you were having that experience that you were complete in that moment, that you weren't thinking of something else that you wanted in that moment? Could you raise your hands if that was true? So there are a great many hands up. In that moment there were no desires outside of that experience. There was no futurizing or "pasturizing" as it's called. There was just immersion in the experience right now. So if it feels so good in whole mind why is it that we don't live there. Why, like the guy in the bar, do we keep forgetting where we live? And I think the answer to that is that the ego mind is a hog. It dominates the conversation. It speaks a lot louder than anything else. And literally grabs our attention away from where we are happy into where we are not. It pulls us out into comparison, which the ego mind does. If you can remember your experience for a moment and go back to it in your mind, you didn't say "I wonder if someone else is having a deeper experience than I am at this moment". But if you were in your ego mind I promise you - you would be going: "Well I think someone else is having a better experience than me, I don't think this is that good." That would be how the ego mind would handle it. But immersed in the experinece of whole mind there is none of that going on. There is no comparison. The ego mind is filled with judgement: It is caught in the past and future, and it has no present. There is no present or presence in the ego mind which is why it doesn't have the feeling of fulfillment, because presence is a divine characteristic. Just being present with someone allows your mind to enter the wholeness. Being present is being present with God awareness. There's none of that in the ego mind. “Just being present with someone allows your mind to enter the wholeness.” What the ego does is it covers over the present with the past, and then it takes the past and it projects it onto the future and so there is no presence there at all, it's just projection. Now I've been doing this work which I've called Pre-Cognitive Re-Education for about fourteen or fifteen years now. And some of the most common misperceptions that I've seen are summarized by these - what I call tapes or limiting beliefs. The ego mind's limiting beliefs that pulls it out of it's ability to stay in wholeness can be summarized with some of these beliefs. The first one is "I'm bad." Subconscious Beliefs The most common belief that I see is "I am bad" or "I'm unworthy of love". Why should this be that way? Well, as Bill has so beautifully taught, the first seven or eight years of life are completely narcisistic. That means anything that happens to us in our childhood period is seen not about the person that did it but always interpreted as being about us. “Well, as Bill has so beautifully taught, the first seven or eight years of life are completely narcisistic. That means anything that happens to us in our childhood period is seen not about the person that did it but always interpreted as being about us.” So if we experienced abuse; if we experienced neglect, if we were the last rung on the ladder and everyone else was getting more attention or if people were just busy and we interpreted that in a way, we will then go "it's about me, I'm bad, I'm not loveable, it's my fault". There is no way out of it except to clean it up. To clean up that retained emotion and limited belief we must clean it up out of the subconscious where it resides. For most of us it is not a conscious belief, it is a subconscous belief, and it can be cleared out. And we're going to do that in a couple of minutes, we are going to clear out one of these beliefs. And you will experience, I believe, that you will start off in your ego mind, caught up in this yaba yaba that the ego mind does and you will end up in the light that you experienced just a couple moments before. Another common belief that pulls us out of whole mind into the ego is "I don't deserve". Again the mind will interpret what happens to us in childhood as being about us and we will think we don't deserve that which we want. Another common one is "I will only be happy if I get..." Oh yes, if I get that raise I will be happy, if I get that raise I will be happy, if I get that relationship I will be happy. Oh if I get - whatever it is that the ego thinks it needs to be happy.. again it futurizes it. It's not happy now so it projects that if I get it I will be happy. It is a short lived happingness that you get. It's that new car feeling that you get and then after a little while you lose it. It's the same thing that happens with the ego mind. The Clearing Process “A clearing is a way of releasing limiting beliefs and stuck emotion from the subconscious.” So we are going to do a clearing now. And a clearing is a way of releasing limiting beliefs and stuck emotion from the subconscious. The idea here is to start off seeing what it is that you feel and then seeing what it is that you feel when the clearing is complete. This will probably be about 5 to 7 minutes. And if we have time we will do one more after that. Ego Mind So again I'm going to ask you if you would just close your eyes. And the ground rules are that if tears come they're welcome. Because sometimes these emotions are stored in there with tears. And beliefs are stored with emotion. This limiting belief that we are going to work on right now says: "I don't deserve to be happy". I'm ______________. Now fill in a word. It could be "bad", "not good enough". I don't deserve to be happy, I'm ______________. Fill in a word. It might be: bad not pretty enough not smart enough There will be something that allows the ego to think that it doesn't deserve to be happy. I don't deserve to be happy, I'm ___________. And if you are willing to share a word that your ego is telling you; that would be helpful for those who can't find anything. Is there something yet? A couple of people give me a word... "unwanted" "unneeded" "not enough" "unloveable" "incompetent" "I'm in pain" So all of these words are typical for what the ego thinks about itself. I'm going to ask you just to be with that feeling. Typically we try to run away from that feeling. Addiction's are often because we are trying to get away from something that we don't want to feel. "Addiction's are often because we are trying to get away from something that we don't want to feel.” Be present with it. Presence alone heals. Be present. I don't deserve to be happy, I'm bad, unloveable, unwanted, incompetent. Now notice what you feel in your body. Notice what you feel in your emotions. There will be a limitied awareness that comes up with this idea. That's what's been going on in your subconscious ever since the tape or limited belief got planted there. It has been running constantly. We have been trying to distract ourselves from it. What you will find I believe is that it can be cleared and when that bubble is cleared it will be forever gone. "When that bubble is cleared it will be forever gone." Alright. Next step. I would like you to imagine a little child, and if you don't imagine well, just the thought of the feeling is sufficient, you don't have to see. Here is a little child holding that feeling. Now if you would I'd like you to seaerate out from the child. The child will have a gravity. An orbit. An energy field. Whole Mind I would like you to imagine that you are standing in that column of light that we started with before and you are standing on, let's say the moon. You are in that column of light. God love is shinning upon you. It will never be taken away. It has nothing to do with your body. It has nothing to do with performance. It isn't about your gifts. It's given freely and eternally. And you are drinking in that love now. Just let it in. That's it. That's it. Now from this column of light, from this experience of light, you look out with inner vision and you see this child that is you on the earth and this child is unhappy. This child believes that it doesn't deserve. Imagine, if you would, that you could go to that child now and say to that child: "I'm sorry that I haven't come for you before because I can see that you are in pain. I can see that you have hurt, I can see that you are upset. But I have come now. And I have come in love. Go to the child, if you will, in your mind and just shine that love on the child. What is happening when you shine that love on the child is that the God energy of unconditional love is reaching a part of your mind that had been blocked up 'til now by your own decision of unworthiness. Go to the child and imagine spending a day, demanding nothing, just extending this love. Now imagine how the child would feel after about a week of you're being there. Perhaps at the end of the week the child would be willing to receive a hug from you. If so give the child the hug. If not, honor the child for it's feelinngs saying: "I really appreciate that you told me that you don't want a hug yet". You have every right to feel what you feel. Love honors, it doesn't over-ride. And I will just be here until you want a hug if you want a hug. Because love honors. So imagine that a chunk of time goes by, maybe a year. If that child didn't want a hug before, would that child accept that hug now? Now imagine that you continue to be with that child, loving that child, and weeks and months and years go by. The key here is to imagine the effect on the child of being loved in that manner. "The key here is to imagine the effect on the child of being loved in that manner.” So bring the child up to twelve or 13 years of age. You've been there the whole time to love the child. Now this is an important insight. Is that child more connected to the energy that is coming through you, the love that is coming through you, or the energy that it was getting, and I am going to use this term specifically: from the people playing the role of it's parents? What I think you will find is that the child is more connected to you. And to the love that is coming through you. This is a very important step. Because it is truly a form of forgiveness. It doens't matter anymore - your child is getting what it needs and is happy getting what it needs from God through you. So if the people who played the role of parents couldn't give it something, it is OK. It is not the source of unhappiness anymore. Teaching Points That is an important step in releasing. Because the subconscious holds on to the idea of "if only I could do this then I would get that love" and it will seek to "pretzelize" itself in any direction to get that love that it thinks is going to make it happy. But now it doesn't have to. It doesn't have to do anything but Be! Continuation of Inner Child Process So keep growing up the child with the idea that you can just be yourself exactly as you are, because the love that is coming through Me (Whole mind) to you (inner child) can't be increased by what you do. Let's check that you can see for yourself. If that child were richer or poorer would that change that feeling of pure compassion? If that child were healthy, or not healthy, heavy or thinner pretty or handsome, less pretty or less handsome, would it change that feeling of pure compassion? What I think you will notice is that stream of energy that is moving through you is unchangeable. It has nothing to do with anything that changes. It has to do with that which doesn't change. Love is for the Self, for the divine nature. And this person could change in any sort of way, but this energy (this love) would not. Keep growing the child up. Now imagine that this child is growing up, not according to your life plan. So it is not necessarily going through the patterns that you went through. It is going to go through it's own lifestory. Just keep growing the child up and see in your mind if you can visualize well or feel what happens to this child? Let's say the child is about 20. About 25. About 30, 35, anywhere in there. Now this is where I would like your words again if you wouldn't mind. What is this child like as an adult? "expressive" "present" "confident" "connected" "loved" a couple more words: "loving" "giving" "soft" Is this being happy? Could you just say the words out loud? "Yes." And if you were to tell this being, this part of yourself that is awakened, that it doesn't deserve to be happy because of whatever word you used before, what would it say? It would laugh. Because it is a ludicrous statement because it is happy. And it's happiness has nothing to do with deserving. It is a state of being. "What I think you will notice is there was a block." What I think you will notice is there was a block at the subconsicous level. These blocks are like little bubbles of bubble wrap. These blocks are like individuated bubbles at the subconscious level hold an experience from the past. And those bubbles obscure our innate and divine nature. It blocks our happiness. It doesn't deserve it. So the attention goes there, it can't get past it. It is locked in non-deserving and then it runs into the world to overshadow that feeling by some behavior. We go have ice-cream, we go get another job, we go find another lover, we do something to avoid it. Because we don't want to feel it. And when that bubble pops we feel and experience what is there eternally and forever. And that is our divine nature. And that divine nature is unchanging. It is perfect, it is whole and complete. It is God within, it is our gift from God, it is our spiritual inheritance. It will never ever be lost. But it can be obscured. "It is our spiritual inheritance, it will never be lost.". And now if you are willing bring your awareness back to the room. Back to the present moment. To Summarize So to summarize what I think perhaps we have experienced: there is an experience of happiness that is available to every one of us in our Whole-minded state. And that Wholeminded state is not hard to get to. It is just a determination not to be caught in our history, in our limitations, in our fears, in our beliefs. It can very easily be made our ongoing experience that has nothing to do with the world outside. I saw a bumper sticker that summarized everything I'm going to say. And it said "Happiness is an inside job". “Happiness is an inside job!” So the wonderful thing here is that while success won't make you happy, happiness will make you successful. Because when you are in that state of Being, because when that power, when that love, when that light shines from you, don't you think you are more attractive then when you are collapsed in your own self-pity and self-judgemnent and withdrawal? Don't you think everyone wants to be around that light? It can't happen in any other way but that happiness makes you successful. So you end up with both this way. Because only everything is enough for a child of God. And that is what God has given us. "And THAT is what God has given us...everything.". Kindly do not duplicate. Copyright 2002 Dr. Rick Moss PhD.

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